What is a successful date? Does it mean it leads on to relationship
and romance? Well you that would be cool. But it doesn't have to mean
that. A successful date can be one where you got on very well, had a
great time and things ended on excellent terms. Not every date we go on
will end this way, but they should if we plan our dating a little more
carefully.
My main concern is that we often just accept dates from the next
person who shows and interest and we hope that we get on okay. The
problem here is that we are being passive in our dating game. We are
receivers without a game plan. Our dating is bound to be far more
successful if we are the ones going out and choosing who we would like
to date from a selection of those who are compatible.
To do this successfully you first have to have an idea of who you
are most likely to get on with and be truthful when you do it. If you
insist on dating everyone, 50% of the people you meet won't be
compatible straight away. In which case you will have half of all your
dates as a complete waste of time. Stop doing that and start analyzing
what kind of people you get on with. Okay I could say the following@
I like people who are aged 29 to 36, single and never previously
married, no children but would like a child sometime. Should be
Christian to an extent, well educated, reasonably tall and have long
blonde hair. They should be receptive to the idea of marriage like
winter sports and live within 100 miles of my home.
Okay if I do this then I can be accused of many things here but this
is just an example. The effect though is to set some criteria by which
I can date and from which I am likely to see some successful dating. If
I don't make a dating profile then its open to all comers. That's okay.
Maybe you simply don't care and want to meet anyone you can., In which
case spread your net widely. The problem is though that you are not
going to please everyone and once again 50% of your dates will be a
complete waste of time.
Recognize that none of us are compatible with everyone. Reclines
your minimum dating requirements and then ensure you match the
requirements you set. There is absolutely no point in setting the
following if you don't match yourself.
I am looking to meet a guy who is 6 feet 2" or taller, must be
athletic and a professional sportsman with an income of over $200k a
year. They must be extremely attractive, own their own house and sports
car and be able to surf.
If you are five feet 1", out of shape and maybe overweight with no
career and a low income and cannot swim then what you have done is just
describe your ideal fantasy figure not your probable dating criteria. I
am not for one second saying you won't be attractive to the character
you have described but to date successfully you must establish ground
where you are most likely to be compatible and will easily match.
The next thing to consider when looking at successful dating are
your expectations. If you are expecting instant love at first sight
followed by a perfect romance and children then that's great. The issue
here is that it may not happen that way. I wish it would but it
doesn't. So being realistic and expecting little is often the best way
to date. If you do then one of these days you are in for a nice
surprise. Greet every date with optimism but don't go over the top. If
you make a new friend then you have done well. Don't expect Cupid at
every turn. It will happen but maybe not just yet.
Successful dates are simple dates. They are casual and fun. Believe
me when I say that desperation comes across as though you have a
placard over your head announcing it. Never ever be desperate to date.
If you are then this is the time to take a breather ironically. How
many times has someone said that you meet a person when you least
expect it. Its true, that's why. So successful dating is when its part
of your monthly routine but not the be all and end all.
Successful dates are when you are at your most casual and most
upbeat and most relaxed. Successful dates happen when you are focused
but in a good mood. Put the rest of your house on order and your dates
will naturally take on a new glow because you will be far more positive
and organized.
To summarize:
- Successful dating involves setting realistic match criteria
- Successful dating involves establishing dating boundaries
- Successful dating means being prepared and upbeat
- Successful dating means keeping things simple and fun
- Successful dating means dating the right people for you
- Successful dating means being realistic about your expectations
- Successful dating means being patient
Currently rated 2.0 by 1 people
- Currently 2/5 Stars.
- 1
- 2
- 3
- 4
- 5